Thank you to the Book Clubs that have already made When Life Feels Like a House Fire: Transforming Your COVID-19 Stress one of your reading selections.
1. What is your biggest takeaway after reading When Life Feels like a House Fire?
2. Fun and play are important parts of healing trauma. What can you do to incorporate more fun or joy into your life these days? What are a few new activities you would like to try in the future?
3. Most people have not experienced an actual fire, but many have in the metaphorical sense (death, divorce or some other heartbreak). What has this book shown you about your own personal house fire(s)?
4. In learning about attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant and disorganized), what insights does this give you to someone you struggle to understand “why” they are the way they are?
5. In discussing attachment styles, Marcy McKay lists eight areas in our lives: romance, family, friends, spirituality/religion, career/business, finances, health/fitness, fun/recreation/play. Which one do you feel like needs more balance? What’s one thing you can do to start making changes there?
6. Who are the over/underfunctioners in your inner circle? How do you need to personally evolve in this regard?
7. Marcy offers several suggestions to help “put out the fire” of your stress: sleep, gut health, diet, limiting your screen time, journaling, exercise, getting more sunshine, grounding, breath work, meditation, having more fun, connecting with others, finding a qualified professional. Which of these intrigued you, and why? Which are you skeptical about, and why?
8. It’s easy to focus on what all you’re doing “wrong.” Can you name two or three things that you’re doing well in dealing with your anxieties, even if it’s just a little bit?
9. Sometimes, our stress origin(s) can feel like a curse. What are some “unexpected blessings” in yours? For example, a chaotic childhood might mean you adapt well to change. If you endured severe trauma, you probably have great inner strength.
10. What’s one tiny change you can make in your life now to create healthier stress patterns? Don’t think BIG. That’s overwhelming. Think small steps.